可爱老女人

说句实话，电影剧情不出彩，逻辑上也有很多漏洞，没有高潮，整个过程让人感觉到压抑沉闷。但是我仍然推荐这部电影，为一群特殊的人：那些生活在因第三者而父母离异阴影下的孩子们。电影引起我的共鸣，一方面是主演们精彩的表演（情感表现的太到位了），另一方面是影片的立意。先放一段影片立意的集中体现：“My name is Mathias Gold. When I used to have friends, they called me Jim, and I would answer. I grew up on Park Avenue in New York City. My parents were wealthy. I was born with a silver knife in my back. Anytime anyone follows their heart, someone else gets their heart broken. There’s always detritus, always hurt, always pain. Love is a limited substance. When you give love to someone new, you have to take it away from someone old. My father took every ounce of love he had and dumped it in Paris. People like us think we've been cursed by God, but, in fact, we've been cursed by our parents. You look in the mirror, and you see an adult. But you have to look more carefully. There's a big piece of you that never grew up. It may have grown tall, but not up. You spend your life waiting for your parents to come back and make it all right. But they don't come back. It's not all right. You have to somehow move past them. You have to somehow convince yourself that you don't need those people, because you don't.”作为因第三者父母离异而受到一定伤害的人，看到Mathias Gold这段独白的时候泪目了。有过相同经历的人都会问自己，那个可怜而渺小的自己：我做错了什么？是因为我做错了什么才让这个家庭分崩离析吗？是我做错了什么父母亲才不愿意爱我吗？最后就像主角所说的，我们以为自己被上帝诅咒，最后才终于明白，是我们的父母亲伤害了我们。而这种伤害持续着，哪怕我们已经白发苍苍，内心的某处角落里那个不被爱的孩子仍然在无助的张望。可这部影片为我们展现了“救赎”。作为两个家庭的受害者（男女主），他们在剥开真相的过程中绝望疯狂，茫然无助，最后相互依偎，也终于懂得了：“我们不必期待或等待父母的改变，因为我们不需要了，时间会冲淡一切，而生命是掌握在自己手中的，我们要为自己灿烂的活下去”。我其实不太愿意聊电影中母亲的角色，无关于演员（演员真的非常棒）。男女主童年的悲剧她要承担一半责任，但是在她犯下错误（也许她不认为那是错误）的几十年光阴中，她从未认为她伤害了两个孩子的童年。这是个可悲的事情，在她追随着自己的心而活的时候，无可避免的会伤害一些人，这其中就包括她亲生女儿。电影中女主人说了一句话：在你15岁之前你是我的孩子，15岁之后你是我的女儿。我从未要求过你陪在我身边一辈子！她以为那个被戴了绿帽的丈夫会爱这个女儿，但在她的垂垂暮年才发现她女儿并不曾被父母任何一方爱过的事实。我能深刻感受到女主的绝望，她一直在等待着，默默陪伴守护在母亲身边，乞求一点点母爱。最后献给所有受到过相同伤害的朋友们：愿你们如主角一样完成“救赎”，让时间慢慢冲淡童年的伤害，认真勇敢的为自己而活。